How To Be A YES Person, While Saying NO

How To Be A YES Person, While Saying NO
Something popped into my head this week, and I felt the need to share it here with you. I was lying in Savasana, thinking way too much for final “resting” pose, oops. But I got to thinking of all of these things I want to cultivate in my life. Present, and Future based. I love to day dream, and I get so excited over everything I want to do, and people I want to connect with. My mind instantly started racing with more ideas; this is pretty common for me to jump to. Then I had this moment of “I need to calm the fuck down.” and embrace every moment slowly. Life happens so fast and it is so so easy to let it swoop you away. Being a ‘YES’ person at my best is always what I strive for, but every time I start saying this too much I start to get overwhelmed and confused. My days get fuzzy, I over book my self, and start to over commit to things I cant. I think there is a fine balence between being an always ‘NAY’ sayer. Being a ‘no no not for me, I already know not for me’ kind of person with out being open minded. Closing the doors to opportunities before even knowing what they’re about or trying it out for size. I run into these mindsets ALL the time, and it drives me insane and makes me feel a little sad.  I sit back and think why people are so stubborn and shut down before they even look into ideas. Don’t others feel the need to embrace more opportunity, feeling good, and over all life experiences? The unwillingness to change because of fear or too much work is normally the excuses I hear. Then there is the ‘yes yes always, what did you say, yes’ I’ll be there type of person. The ones that you can always count on to be excited but you aren’t sure if they’ll show up, or on time because they’ve made 5 other arrangements that day before checking their schedule. The mental schedulers. I really love this type of person because they are motivating when it comes to being around that type of energy. How can we be a yes individual without getting overwhelmed, and without crossing over to the no side of the spectrum? I believe in saying yes to the things that will better myself, and support others who I love to see progress. With that said if it is going to hinder my growth at that moment in time maybe it is okay to say “another day”. If I’m going to show up I better do it 110 percent. It is respectful of others, and myself to practice the balance. This is just in the everyday mindset. Moving on to more long term. I love to seek out opportunity, and sometimes I get ideas from new things I find and my mind starts to run. Do these new explorations vibe with me right here right now? If the answer is no, then maybe put it in your back pocket for later. I think it is important to look at what keeps coming back up. Do these new findings keep putting it back in front of you or do you put it aside and never see it again? What is truly calling out to you? What are you drawn to? If it is calling to you over and over again, then it is a sign that you must go after it. Don’t let them pass by, no matter what it is.  So be a YES person, but also learn when you need to say no. Don’t be a constant NAY person. Balance it out and be open to opportunity that draws you in.